Finding Hope in the Midst of Trauma and Mourning
I’m a trauma therapist. Each day, I work with survivors of sexual trauma at a non-profit agency and also within my private counseling practice.... read more
Not Today Satan
Pictured here are giant black circles under my eyes and heavily dry-shampooed hair in a half-hearted bun. Not pictured are my sore nipples from... read more
A Word on Expectations
I came across a TODAY Show spot from earlier in the summer about photographers who are “raising the bar” on graduation photos for high... read more
How I’m Choosing Hope in the Midst of Struggle—And How You Can Too
Dear Friend, I see you struggling, as I am, to make sense of the hopeless narrative that continues to proliferate, particularly in light of... read more
Ben Gear: Comfortably Dishonest
Do I want to be comfortable or do I want to be honest? The two aren’t mutually exclusive, just all too commonly incorrectly valued.... read more
My True Story of Step Parenting
I don’t love being a stepmom. I’ll just be honest and call it like it is. Being a stepmom is one of the most... read more
Benjamin Gear on Honesty
When you work hard to build an image, to maintain a persona, it’s tough to be honest with others or with yourself. My story... read more
Notes of Encouragement: Honesty
“Every experience that you have and will have upon the Earth encourages the alignment of your personality with your soul. Every circumstance and situation... read more
Begin the Practice of Honesty
There are few values held so dear in our culture as honesty. Honesty is the very rock on which relationships are built and dashed,... read more